Honesty ““ No Shades of Grey

Honesty

When I was studying photography over 20 years ago, my favorite images were usually rendered in black and white. This is known as monochromatic photography because the photos are produced in a single hue rather than in color. In black and white photography the images contain tones of grey through an entire spectrum from black to white. In Wikipedia it states that “Black and white photography is considered more subtle and interpretive, and less realistic than colour photography.” And it continues on to say, “Monochrome images are not direct renditions of their subjects, but are abstractions from reality, representing colours in shades of grey.” How interesting that it is written that these images are abstractions from reality and representing colors in shades of grey. That is how I see dishonesty.

You may have heard the expression “It’s just a little white lie.” I believe it should be stated as “It’s just a little black lie,” especially when, in my world, the color white represents purity and all that is good, whereas the color black represents dark and evil things that are polar opposites of good. A real test is to ask yourself, “Is what I say meant to deceive?” There you will have your answer. Our society has perpetuated a problem by teaching that it is ok to tell a little lie if it isn’t meant to harm a person or if it is told to protect one’s feelings. I do not believe that this is a good way to deal with others. It is those who do not find importance in honesty that can snare their relationships with others and bind them in mistrust.

I can hear it already; many of you think that this is extreme and that no one can live a life with total honesty. I’m sure you are right to a degree as to how difficult it would be to become totally honest in words and deeds, but I believe it is possible. I myself still have a distance to travel to get to that point, and I may never totally get there. But it is important to step in front of a mirror and look oneself in the eye asking, “If I had to deal with you, could you be trusted?” If you can be honest in your answer, with yourself, the truth will be revealed.

You may want to ask another question: “Why is this so important?” I believe that trust within a society is a foundation that should never be compromised. When honesty is not taught and the skills are not learned, harsh justice will be served; if not by society, then by God.

In talking with a friend the other day, I confided in her that I have been watching the actions of many people lately and asking myself, “If I needed to hire someone, could that person be trusted in the role?” This particular friend has been mistreated unconscionably and yet still has good to say about the person who has done her wrong. Even though she may choose not to trust him again, she has made a choice to treat him with dignity even if he may not deserve it. I praised her for the strength of character I have seen in her and admitted that I would find it difficult to be so kind. She then told me that many years ago she worked for a national finance corporation and had many corporate customers. Her superiors continually said that she was too nice and needed to be more cutthroat in how she ran her department. Being malicious, deceitful and backstabbing was the way of many of her fellow workers, and this was perpetuated when new staff would be brought in and taught that this is the only way to get to the top. She was proof that those were lies, as she had many clients who stayed with her because they trusted her words and her actions; they trusted her character.

The Golden Rule states to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” This truly is one of the greatest lessons taught. If we want our world to exist in full color and not to be disguised in shades of grey, we really do need to begin with ourselves. And when we make that choice to be truthful we will find that others will trust us and will learn from who we have become. With that clarity and change of character we also will find that reality will no longer be abstract but rather clear and as close to real as good things can become, making our world a lot brighter.

In Other’s Words:

“Those who think it is permissible to tell white lies soon grow color-blind.“

~Austin O’Malley~

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